Do not let people determine how you feel about you

Us as human beings have the ability to love ourselves. We are created by the almighty God, who is love. Most importantly he loves us, he will go to all measures just to show us how much he loves us. Inherently love is within us and therefore, we have the ability to love ourselves the way we are. But want prevents us from manifesting this love for ourselves is people. Do not let people suck energy out of you by; caring about what they think of you, trying to gain acceptance and letting other peoples actions affect you. The most important person is you and love starts from within.

Fulfill your potential.

Is anxiety stopping you from fulfilling your potential?

Anxiety can ruin you life if you let it, especially when it comes to forming romantic relationships. So my advice for today is step out of your comfort zone and say hi to that person you see on the train everyday and have been dying to talk to me. Ask your self this, do you want to live your life anxious and fearful.

Is it racist to say that I wouldn’t generally go for a black or white person?

One of the British Big Brother contestant on this year’s season stated she would go for dark skin but not black. She further stated that she wouldn’t generally go for black guys. When approach by a fellow contestant about her statement, who happens to be a black woman, she said "that’s my preference, you probably wouldn’t go for a white guy". When I heard this two things popped up in my head. One being, was what she said just a matter of preference or actually racist? Secondly, why did she assume that her black housemate wouldn't go out with a white guy? 

With the first question I think it is important to know that people do have preferences. To me race is not a qualification to how attractive someone is to me. If you are hot you are hot. But that said, I know people who prefer a particular race. I do not think there is anything wrong with preference; the issue only comes when we determine our preference based on the media’s portrayal of certain races. If the big brother contestant genuinely does not find black men attractive without any particular negative feelings towards black men as a whole then fair enough. Preference is fine as long as there are no negative racial attitudes towards that particular group.    

With the second element I am particularly interested in 'why' she said the other housemate, the black woman, would not go out with a white man. Do people generally assume that you would not go out with a particular race because you belong to a different race? This makes me wonder do people generally think I could not go out with a white man because I am black. Can this explain why white men do not approach me? Yesterday I was in a shop and noticed that a man was looking at me, but didn't say anything. This is generally the experience I have had with white men.

How colour blind is love?

While relationships between white and black people are rising, it is rare to see relationships consisting of a black woman and white man. I live in Manchester and my observation is that there are more black men and white women couples then there are white men and black women together. This is not only exclusive to Manchester it is the same across the board. Being the curious person I am I just wonder why this is the case. 

It’s not a problem that more black women and white men are not deciding to be in a relationship with each other. I particularly want to know what people’s views are about this trend.

Do you think it is to do with attraction? Is it simply black women and white men are generally not attracted to each other? Or does the issue go beyond attraction and rather more complex?

I know who somebody wants to date is subjective, that’s why I would like to hear everybody’s views. Please no politically correct answers.